watch your back

My grand child's other grandmother is BP. In the past week, BP has seen her daughter go off the deep end and be committed to a psyche facility. A tough place to be I am sure. This hospitalization and our son's incarceration left us with no option other than to seek emergency custody of The Girl. We have been trying to get joint custody of her for two years. Her mother will not come across and sign the joint custody papers even though she has filed for child support twice. When my husband and our wonderful attorney presented to the Judge, we were granted emergency temporary domicalary parent status until a hearing can be held to determine a more permanent arrangement. When the Judge had completed our paperwork, she asked "Aren't there other children in the home? We need to protect them too. Have the responsible parties call me today and we will take care of it all on one order. The Girl's mothers attorney stated he would notify BP and spouse. My husband said I would notify the other child's grandmother CW who happens to work at the same place I do. The Judge agreed with that plan. I called CW to tell her what was going on and she took immediate action. I did not call BP because the plan was for her daughter's attorney to call her. Well he did call her and she did call the Judge. However, for a reason not known to me, the Judge did not call her back. A few days later, BP accused me of orchestrating the removal of the children from the mother's care. Hello? Are you not the same BP who told me a week ago not to let The Girl go back to her mother's home until we were sure that the mom was ok, really ok. I went over the activity that took place in the Judge's office, telling her that I hoped that the attorney had actually told her what had taken place, that it was the Judge's idea to help the other children as well as ours. She finally said that maybe her beef should be with the Judge and not with me... hmmmm ya think???? When I think of the things they have let their daughter get away with, what the kids have seen, the lies that have been told and believed, the desire to cover up the problem to protect the family name and business, the things I have called to warn and or inform her about....then she turns on me, the person who has given her all for The Girl....

computer time

I have not been able to get to this portion of the computer for some days now. The girl is with us 24-7 at the moment and my "compender" time consists of her typing her name and other stuff in big pink letters and looking at the Terabithia trailers and music video. I have waited today until she was fast asleep, which didn't take too long considering that she was awake at 4:15, that's AM for those of you who aren't familiar with it. She is getting pretty good with using the computer. We are always looking for some kind of game or activity for her to play. She likes to "tap" which is either her word for "type" or her word for "tap" . When she is tapping, she moves her fingers like I do mine when I am typing. Of course she is not hitting the correct keys, but she is getting the moves down. She has a Video+ book reader and game console that is hooked up to a tv in the living room. We have ordered some more cassettes for it as she seems to like what came with it.

bridge to Teraabithia

This is a great movie! Do not miss this movie, either at the theater or at home. It is adapted from a best selling book by the same name. I have not read the book. As with many Disney movies, there are some tear jerking scenes and some exciting scenes, and some funny scenes. The story is great, misfits in Junior High try to find ways to make it through their day to day ordeals of life. It does make me think that kids are put under tremendous pressure every day, much of which the general public, not to mention the parents of those kids, have no clue about. Fantsay worlds do exist, one way or the other.

The SD continues

My 3 year old granddaughter has got her mother's goat. She alledgedly spit in her mother's face and called her a Butthead. I do not know what prompted these actions, but they can not continue. God only knows what will happen to the child if the SD loses her cool. The SD says she is sick and the baby is sick. I hear this all the time. The SD also says she has PMS. In her case, it is quite bad, has been the 4 years I have known her. It is a sign of a worse condition, I'm just not sure what. Because of these infractions, she will not be allowed to go to dance class today. Of course, it also means that the SD does not have to get up off her lazy butt and actually take the child to dance class. IHTB.

trouble getting to sleep.

The Girl is having trouble going to sleep, both at nap time and at bed time. She does not want to go to sleep. She can not admit that she is tired. Every night for some time she has cried for her mama. Some times the crying is only for a short time. But sometimes the crying will go on and on. I can't figure out what is best to do. I am considering some benadryl a little while before bedtime. It should make her sleepy and relaxed and maybe she won't fret so terribly. Yes it will also help relieve us of some of her suffering too. The trougle going to sleep is much worse since last Sunday when the domestic incident occurred at her mama's house. She talks about bad dreams some times, with bad guys with knives. Where that comes from I do not know.

Plan B

Plan A was put into effect on Tuesday. The SD's mother went to her house and "took" the baby home with her. She told the SD that the 6 year old and the baby would be staying with her until the SD could get her life under control. The SD's mother aka the other grandmother of our darling, called me to tell me what she had done and whether or not I could get the girl. Of course I could and she could stay with us from now on if needed. The next day the baby and the brother were back at the SD's. So much for plan A. I called the other grandmother yesterday and today to see what happened. She called me back around lunch time to say she had been working, but that she and her hubby were working on plan B. They are going to do something soon. I guess we will wait and see. This is the perfect time to go to court for joint custody especially if they do it too. and the brother's grandmother is ready to pounce too.

Plan B

Plan A was put into effect on Tuesday. The SD's mother went to her house and "took" the baby home with her. She told the SD that the 6 year old and the baby would be staying with her until the SD could get her life under control. The SD's mother aka the other grandmother of our darling, called me to tell me what she had done and whether or not I could get the girl. Of course I could and she could stay with us from now on if needed. The next day the baby and the brother were back at the SD's. So much for plan A. I called the other grandmother yesterday and today to see what happened. She called me back around lunch time to say she had been working, but that she and her hubby were working on plan B. They are going to do something soon. I guess we will wait and see. This is the perfect time to go to court for joint custody especially if they do it too. and the brother's grandmother is ready to pounce too.

Plan B

Plan A was put into effect on Tuesday. The SD's mother went to her house and "took" the baby home with her. She told the SD that the 6 year old and the baby would be staying with her until the SD could get her life under control. The SD's mother aka the other grandmother of our darling, called me to tell me what she had done and whether or not I could get the girl. Of course I could and she could stay with us from now on if needed. The next day the baby and the brother were back at the SD's. So much for plan A. I called the other grandmother yesterday and today to see what happened. She called me back around lunch time to say she had been working, but that she and her hubby were working on plan B. They are going to do something soon. I guess we will wait and see. This is the perfect time to go to court for joint custody especially if they do it too. and the brother's grandmother is ready to pounce too.

Other grandmother takes a stand

The Girl's other grandmother, mother of the SD, made plans with the SD last night that together they would arrange for the SD to start counseling right away. This morning, the SD was supposed to meet me at the speech therapists office at 8am. I was unable to reach her by phone after several attempts. the last one being about 10:15 from work. So I called her mom, the other grandmother who decided she better go down to the house to check it out. She called me back later with interesting tid bits. Such as "I brought the baby back home with me and she and bubba will be staying here for a while" She told the SD that the kids would not be back until she could "get her head on straight". She asked if I could get the girl and of course I said yes. Now when the SD eventually called me today, her story was ever so much different that that of her mothers. Imagine that. The other grandmother also told me that someone called the police at some time yesterday evening because they were at the SD house at 11:30 last night to say that "it was reported that there was a disturbance going on with kids in the house." So that should mean there will be yet another police report to obtain copies of for our file. Other grandmother has been talking about relieving the SD of the kids for some time. Of course she did not want it to have to come to that, but I think she has had all she can take at this time. Her focus is on the kids and what they have gone through, although she is also willing to help the SD with getting her head shrunk if necessary. The SD has been real ugly to her parents lately, and has been ignoring their calls, etc. She is blind to the fact that they may well be the only people she has left if this world who can and are willing to help her. Seems like they are not making excuses, either. Now whether or not this has anything to do with the fact that we have just taken a drastic measure in our own lives is not important. The fact that she did SOMETHING is great.

The She Devil is losing it

I called the SD this evening to make final arrangements about getting the girl to the speech therapy eval in the morning. SD sounded like she had been sleeping and was ill. I asked & she said she had fever and had been throwing up and had been sleeping. I told her she should have called me to say that she was sick and that I would come over and pick Chloe up. At the same time the boy friend asked her who was on the phone and must have asked if she was going to get up because he needed some help with the baby. I asked where the Girl was and she said right here and gave her the phone. WHile on the phone with her, I could hear the SD and the BF as the words became heated then exploded by the time pawpaw was on the phone. Pawpaw asked what was happening. She said Mama is screaming and they are fighting. He told the girl to go in her room and wait for us. We were on our way in short order. When we got there, the Girl was in the living room with her mother, the baby and the BF. Pawpaw took the Girl outside to the car and talked, etc. I tried to settle the two down, to clear the air. The SD was seething, loud, intermittently crying. She said he had done this for the last time, put his hands on her, etc. and he wasn't gong to do it again and it was wrong for it to happen in front of the Girl. Of course, I agree and remind them both that there is another child involved here now too who needs to be protected too. The BF was mostly quiet except when he tried to answer her. I got them to be quiet and I talked for a few minutes. She would spit out threatening words and he eventually went outside to the bench. I talked with the SD some more, tried to get her to call her mom or dad to come get the baby. She refused, but had blaming excuses for why not. As we were leaving, the Girls half brother was brought home from the weekend outing by his dad. The brother did not want to go home, as he had not seen his dad in some time. They took a while talking in the yard while I spoke to his wife and said maybe he should go on home with them. She picked up on what was going on with us taking the Girl home with us at this time of night, etc. The dad went in to speak to the SD, and could see the BF sitting out on the bench, so talked with the SD some. We left, but I felt I had to call the SD's mom or dad to come down, or at least to tell them what was going on. I spoke to the mom, and told her my story. We talked about needing to do something, and not being sure what to do or how to do it and how hard that is. She told me she thought the SD was on drugs. I reminded her that the same thing happened when the Girl was a baby. She thanked me for calling and said she would call me back. In the meantime, later, The SD called. She sounded better. She told me her mom and been over and I said good, did she take the baby home so you could rest. She said no, but the baby is asleep and I am going to take a shower and go to bed, I asked her if she was alone and she said no, He is here. I asked if they were going to talk it over and try to work this out. She said we are talking. she said she would meet me at 8am at the speech therapy eval. and She said that she and her mom were going to see Dr ___ some time Monday. Later her mom called me and we talked a little. The SD wanted to know if I had called and her mom said it doesn't make any difference, I am here now. She is convinced this is bad. She wants to call the attorney but she is also going to find someone to get the SD some help. I reminded her that the SD is quick to complain that the Girls dad doesn't really acknowledge his mental health issues and certainly does not do anything about it and she doesn't want to be like him. The Girl clung to her pawpaw when he picked her up. She pretended that everything was ok. Pawpaw gave her plenty of time and chances to talk about anything and everything. We asked her some non threatening questions about screaming and fighting & who did what to her. She was her self by the time we got home. She had lay down for her nap at 3:15 or so and it was now 6 or so, just about or at half time of the Super Bowl. So we felf she would be up late. She got more hyperas the evening went on, but was able to settle down after we started working on the computer. She was finally asleep after 10:30. Her PawPaw beat her to the punch though. I seem to be having trouble settling down so I am writing this and have taken by medicine that helps me go to sleep. Tomorrow is another day that starts soon. So I need to settle down too.

Pan's Labrynth

What a movie. A must see. Probably best on the big screen since there are subtitles. I saw the add for it today and it said that is was comparable as Lord of the Rings, so I asked my husband if he wanted to go later. We went to the 7 pm show, there were maybe 10 other people in the theatre. I hope more people get wind of how good it is and go to see it. I would very much like to know if it is based on an acutal event that occurred, or if it is all made up. It was nominated for best original screen play. How weird to be able to write like that.