no mother's day

On Mother's Day, even a 5 year old expects to see her estranged mother, wants to give her a card and a present and prance around and say "I picked it out." But, alas, the mother is so wrapped up in herself that she denied the child the opportunity to do any of those things for her. Her LOSS. I hope she feels it some day. The child was able to see her other grandmother and grandfather, her (half) sister and (half) brother and have a great time playing for a couple of hours. When the absent mother did call and spoke to the brother, she did not speak to the 5 year old or to the sister. Seems this whole abscenteeism started because she said the 3rd grandmother told her she would not be able to see her son on Mother's Day. She got upset and had the boy friend come and pick her up and they went out of town to see his mother. A few hours later, the 3rd grandmother called to say that the boy could come and visit. His grandmother said of course he can come. So when we got there to visit, all three kids were together on half siblings day instead of mother's day. There is also the issue that has come out through discussion with the 5 year old's other grandmother that her mother got upset when I let the 5 year old spend the night with my neice and nephew. When the arrangements were initally made, I did not realize it was Mother's Day weekend, but it did not matter since she would be available for visiting at the same time as if we had been to church. I can not count on absent mother to be in the right place on the weekend to visit with her daughter. So I did what I thought was best for the child.Which of course didn't go over well with her mother because she was not in the center of attention. The child did not understand why her mother wasn't home and when I told her she was with her boyfriend she told me "Mama would rather be with him than me". Sad, but true. I had explained how her mother and daddy are alot alike in that they are selfish and want to do for themselves first. She is learning too many life lessons too soon.